A few months ago I visited a friend who had moved into a new apartment on her own. As she showed me around, we stopped at her bedroom door. I immediately felt a peaceful energy wash over me. The colours, the light and the softness of the simple room captivated me. My mind was transported back to when I saw another friend’s bedroom years before. I recalled admiring the matching furniture, the beautiful linen and again noticing the feeling of comfort and joy that rose up in me.
Now let me paint a picture of my bedroom at the time … the room that I had slept in for 10 years. On my side of our timber bed, there was a somewhat matching bedside table bearing the stains of some beauty products, or other chemical concoctions, I’d spilt on it. Stacks of books littered both the bedside and adjacent floor. On my partner’s side, an old black entertainment unit stuffed with obsolete stereo equipment, shoes, magazines and even clothes masqueraded as a bedside table. A small table he’d made in high school manual arts, in a completely different coloured timber, sat in the corner holding an alarm clock and photo frame. A 2 x 1.5m abstract blue and yellow painting, colours that didn’t feature anywhere else in the room, was the first thing that we saw every morning when we opened our eyes.
The fact that I often wanted to close the bedroom door when we had guests probably gives some indication as to how I felt about the room.
As I drove home from my friend’s place I realised that it was time to act on my intuition to create a bedroom that generated good feels for me, whether I was greeting the new day or giving myself a break to revitalise.
Knowing that I was less likely to get my partner over the line if I suggested a costly revamp, I set myself the goal of enhancing the vibe of the bedroom on a budget. The first stop was an outlet linen shop where I shared with the sales assistant that I’d never dressed a bed before and asked for help. Her excellent advice and beautiful sale stock fuelled my enthusiasm.
Over the following weeks, I scoured online second-hand sites to eventually find each of the pieces I wanted – a set of modern matching bedside tables, a bookcase and a blanket box for hubby’s shoes and other paraphernalia. We also decided to swap the painting for one downstairs that blends perfectly with the look and feel of the room.
So why have I shared this story? I’m hoping it might inspire you to reflect on your own life. Good feels can raise our mood and our energy. What might create more good feels for you? Maybe it’s a physical space but it could be a new habit or hobby or even a new job. It can be way easier and much less cost than we think. Once we set the intention often everything else will fall into place.
Let me know how you go.
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Donna Thistlethwaite is a Brisbane-based speaker and trainer specialising in mental health and resilience. She is an accredited Mental Health First Aid Instructor and Resilience at Work Facilitator with a passion for suicide prevention and for helping individuals, teams and organisations to THRIVE. You can find out about her next Mental Health First Aid courses here.