When was the last time you’ve found yourself in a funk? Maybe you’re noticing the negatives more than normal, you’re emotional, your partner might be frustrating you even though they’re doing exactly what they were doing last week, and the kids … the kids just are pushing your buttons constantly. You might have a swag of resilience practices but they just don’t seem to be working their magic today.
If you’re there now this tale should help and if you’re not you might want to keep reading because let’s face it, we all find ourselves there from time to time. The very nature of life is that it has its ups and downs. Even when we have lengthy periods of thriving we can find ourselves out of sorts.
Maybe we become triggered by someone or something, perhaps the universe sends us a lesson or maybe the next thing we need to work on bubbles to the surface. Sometimes the road there can feel like a mystery, we just know we’re not ourselves.
The past week I’ve been in a funk, living what I described in the opening. Since it started I’ve cried, I’ve chastised myself for poor productivity and engaged in other negative self-talk, my mind has been super busy and I’ve even experienced a nagging sore neck.
To top it off I was sick on Saturday night while hosting a sleepover for five children. When my son told me an hour after they left on Sunday that he was bored, I’m embarrassed to say that I flipped my lid and swore in response to what I interpreted as a complete lack of gratitude on his part.
I’ve since apologised because I am the adult here and swearing in front of my child does not align with my values but it did trigger my resolve to move out of the energy I was in. I sat down to write a Tuesday Tale on Sunday night because I currently have none in reserve.
Do you think any words would come to me in that funk energy? Something else to criticise myself for. As hard as it was to abort the writing … it’s meant to be all about the practice whether I feel like it or not, I did.
I acknowledged that I was in a funk and shared with my partner how I was feeling. As usual articulating it helped shift some of the negative energy. I also made a conscious decision to shift my thoughts, actions and energy.
I listened to a favourite audiobook (in case you need to know it was Denise Duffield Thomas’ Lucky Bitch) for inspiration. I completed an activity that Denise recommends and that I’ve been procrastinating on. As with many things we procrastinate on, it was way less work than I expected.
This morning I journalled away how I was feeling. I also did a forgiveness activity that Denise recommends and filled a page with loving words to myself. One, or a combination, of these actions has successfully shifted my energy. The cloud appears to have blown away, at least for now.
The energy I feel in this moment is lighter and the perfect energy to do life with.
What could you do to shift your energy next time the funk stops by?
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Donna Thistlethwaite is a Brisbane-based speaker and trainer specialising in mental health and resilience. She is an accredited Mental Health First Aid Instructor and Resilience at Work Facilitator with a passion for suicide prevention and for helping individuals, teams and organisations to THRIVE. You can find out about her next Mental Health First Aid courses here.