Today has been one of those days. To be totally honest, it’s not even just today. For the past couple of months, I’ve had quite a few difficult times as I’ve navigated the holidays, parenting, relationships and my mental health.
The imposter monster has been making a few unwelcome appearances recently. How can I get on stage and speak about how to thrive when I’m not there as much as I’d like at the moment? Who am I to influence others when I haven’t got my sh*t together? Do I have the expertise to create the workshop that the prospective client is seeking? Why am I writing this Tuesday Tale at 4.30pm today rather than having a stockpile of them to draw from? Will I ever be able to write that book? … Know the feeling?
I’m not yet sure what is at the heart of my challenges but I’ve been spending some time reflecting on what I’m thinking, feeling and doing when I’m thriving and working backwards (and forwards) from there.
In addition to my routine resilience strategies, I’m having honest conversations at home about where I’m at; I’ve shared how I’m feeling with a couple of friends; I’m journaling and EFT tapping; I’m catching up with people I enjoy; I’ve offered to have a career chat with a girlfriend’s mate and have taken steps towards organising a men’s health event because I know that helping others is great for our wellbeing and in fact, is my purpose.
I’m going to keep adjusting the levers in my life until thriving is my consistent state again. In the meantime, I’m going to be compassionate with myself and recognise that it’s ok not to be perfect and small steps are just fine. For instance, our marble jars may not be as full as I’d like but the practice continues. Thank you for being my accountability buddy ????
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Donna Thistlethwaite is a Brisbane-based speaker and trainer specialising in mental health and resilience. She is an accredited Mental Health First Aid Instructor and Resilience at Work Facilitator with a passion for suicide prevention and for helping individuals, teams and organisations to THRIVE. You can find out about her next Mental Health First Aid courses here.